We are all a little weird and life’s a little weird, and when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall in mutual weirdness and call it love.
– Dr. Seuss
I’m so excited that Yuzuru Hanyu won the gold!!! I adore this kid; he is a freakin rock star! I’ve never seen anyone skate like that – so loose and free, like he’s just messing around out there. And so much personality! This performance broke the world record for highest men’s short program score. Previous record holder? Yuzuru Hanyu. He is CRUSHING IT and I am a huge fan. Even if you think you’re not into figure skating, seriously, take 6 minutes and watch the linked video (HERE IS ANOTHER LINK – YOU HAVE NO EXCUSE) because it is insanely entertaining.
- This is a cool piece: Why Writers Are the Worst Procrastinators. (Applies to non-writers as well.) The idea is that people who have learned to rely on their innate intelligence & talent are often very afraid of failure because they see it as a fundamental personal insufficiency – this is a “fixed mindset.” They tend to avoid challenges and even sabotage themselves (by procrastinating, for example) rather than trying their hardest and falling short. It’s much better to have a “growth mindset,” and believe that you can nourish talent by practicing stuff that you find difficult.
- Closely related to the previous: this psychologist says that the most distinctive quality of high achievers is “grittiness.” She defines “grit” as “the disposition to pursue very long-term goals with passion and perseverance, sustained over time.” Talent will only take you so far; grit is what makes things happen.
- Closely related to the previous two: always praise kids for their efforts, not their abilities. If kids are told they are smart when they succeed, they are more likely to view failure as evidence of stupidity and avoid challenges. On the other hand, kids praised for working hard are more likely to seek out challenges and figure out new strategies for success, and were less concerned about how they performed relative to other kids. Also, praise specific things, (“that’s a very good drawing”) instead of general skills (“you are a good drawer”), so that one failure doesn’t affect other successes.
- Completely unrelated to the previous three: my (theoretical, future) children will have a vine teepee playhouse. (We will build it together and I will praise them for working so hard.) In fact, if I had a backyard right now I might make one for myself. Perfect reading spot!
That’s all I’ve got for the week. If you need me, I’ll be trying to develop Grit.
*Mutters to self* “Good job Amy, that was a good Internet Travel Guide. You collected a lot of links that were closely related to each other.”